© Michael Webb
How to Make Affection a HabitIn our modern culture, hugs and kisses are the backbone of any romantic relationship. I don’t know any married couple who would say they had a fulfilling relationship if they didn’t hug and kiss frequently. Would you (or your mate) like to receive more hugs and kisses?

I began thinking about this and it reminded me of a childhood game I would play with my sisters. Each time we spotted a Volkswagen Beetle on the road we would lightly hit the other person and yell “slug bug, no slug bugs back.” After playing that game for many years in the back of our maroon Toyota Corolla station wagon it became a habit. To this day I can’t see a “Herbie” without thinking of lightly slugging someone.

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I have a new habit now. Whenever I am stopped at a red light, I lean over and give Athena a light peck on the cheek while we are waiting for it to turn green. I guess I could start doing the same when we are at stop signs or if we spot a McDonalds or even a Volkswagen Beetle.

Some theories say that you have to repeat an action 17 days in a row before it will become a habit. In other words, being romantic takes much effort and concentration at first and if we repeat it consistently, after a while it will come more naturally. Giving and receiving daily kisses and hugs are important but we must remember that hugs and kisses are NOT natural for many people. Turning them into a game may be the only way to teach some of us how to make those physical gestures a part of our daily routine.

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